Respectful Communication Is Necessary For A Positive Response

19 January, 2010 (11:33) | Communication | By: Sandy

Effective CommunicationI was venting yesterday about the communication skills of adults, and I feel I must add that many of my students are very respectful in their communications with me. I really appreciate the kind tone they use in all of their messages directed to me and in the messages they post to their peers.

In our class we discuss the four basic elements of effective communication: determining your audience, studying your purpose and then writing effective content with the appropriate tone to convey that purpose to a specific audience.

Perception is Key

Communication has changed tremendously with the emergence of technology. Most everyone uses email today as their primary form of communication, so it’s important not only to think about what you want to say, but also to make certain your message is conveyed in a decent format with good grammar and punctuation. Don’t forget that the way your message is received and perceived by your audience has a definite effect on the response.

If you want a positive outcome to your messages, regardless of the purpose, you have to make sure you are using the right tone – primarily one that exudes respect. Even if you have to send a negative message, the tone you convey through your word choice can have a huge impact on how the other person will react to your message.

Have you ever written an email when you were angry?

If you sent it, what was the outcome? Did your angry message really get positive results? I doubt that it did.

My advice for a situation like this is to type your message – everything you want to say – in a word document. Don’t put it into a “reply” email just in case you should accidentally send it. Instead, just type your thoughts into a word document. Then walk away from it.

When you come back to your message, read it out loud and see what kind of reaction you think the receiver would have. Now, here’s the best part, you have the opportunity to change this message now that you are not so angry. Change the tone, be more respectful and send it when you have revised it. I guarantee the results will be much better than if you had responded with your first draft!

Spoken words cannot be taken back and written words can’t either – especially in today’s world of email communication. Your message can be forwarded to many different people, so it makes sense to be sure you write the kind of messages that you would be proud for anyone to read.

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Comment from Robert Keteyian
Time: January 19, 2010, 4:05 pm

Unfortunately, we don’t teach interpersonal communication skills in schools. We teach written and oral communication, as well as communication through the arts. But interpersonal communication is a big missing piece.

Comment from Sandy
Time: January 21, 2010, 1:13 pm

Hi Robert,
That is an excellent point. I always hope that as a result of learning to be a more effective communicator on any level will have a positive impact on interpersonal communication skills as well.

I am interested in reading your book.

Thanks for your comment.

Comment from Sandy
Time: February 16, 2010, 2:26 pm

Hi Bob,
I ordered your book and it came yesterday. Can’t wait to read more and see what else you have to say!
Sandy

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